There’s been a long list of advice that I have given you over the years…some of it you’ve asked for and some of it you haven’t. Some of it you’ve taken to heart and guarded and some you’ve taken like a dose of nasty medicine. But you never complain. I just wanted to put a few things down that you can look back on from time to time. Only if you need to, of course.
Remember that self-image is indeed important. Everyone should strive to be their best in everything that they are and do. However, if someone tells you something you know to be false, then by all means, feel free to disregard it. Don’t allow a person who isn’t even important in your life, someone who isn’t a permanent part of your life, to define YOU in any way, shape, form or fashion. Listen to those that love you, and those that truly care about you. You know who they are and you know you can trust them to tell you the truth. Not because they are “so and so” – that doesn’t matter. The fact is that the people closest to you will not lie to you. If you DO need to be told the truth about something unsavory, they are also the people that will tell you the truth in love. Believe that and commit it to heart because it will serve you well.
Remember the quote by Albert Einstein that I told you about: “Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Public education, while always striving to be better and better has only effectively gotten worse and worse. With things like “common core” and “no child left behind”, they have forgotten that children are PEOPLE! They have forgotten that some are slower than others, or learn in a different way, and some are gifted and easily get bored with classwork that they are already far past on an intellectual level. Unfortunately, in today’s educational facilities, if you are either one of those, you are a bother in the classroom. BUT, this doesn’t mean that you are wrong, or stupid, or lacking in any way. You have your way of learning and don’t be ashamed of it. Learn, that is the important thing, and learn well. It does matter, and someday you will look back and see that.
Remember that I always told you “today is another day down”. Whether you’re trying to move away from something unpleasant, or towards something you’re anxious for, every day is a new day. The Bible says: Lamentations 3:22-23 “It is of the Lord‘s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.” His mercies are NEW EVERY MORNING! That is an amazing promise! That we can wake up each day and thank God that we made it another day, the old day that was yesterday is gone and the new day that is starting is fresh and new, laid out before us like a blank canvas just waiting for you to paint, and create a masterpiece. And you will. I could tell you what you’ll feel in another 20 years, but you’d think me sentimental. It is true though, that one day you will look back on these days and see that the small things really were the big things. Every day, we make memories that will last our lifetime. Choose them well, and try your best everyday.
Remember that I told you, “this too, shall pass”. Well, in a manner of speaking. Sometimes we go through things that hurt so badly we feel as if our heart will beat right out of our chest and we wouldn’t care that it did. Maybe the pain would be less, and we surely wouldn’t mind that! I know, because Lord knows I’ve been there more than once. And at that particular time in space, I felt like I would never, ever, ever, ever, ever feel better. That nothing would change, and I would carry that heartbreak or pain or disgust or sense of loss for the rest of my life, like a heavy coat I just couldn’t shrug off. But…it WILL pass and better days WILL come. They always do. And for every one that passes, it will begin to take root and the understanding will come. You’ll learn to lean on God a little more, because He is the only One that can give you peace that passes all understanding. And it truly is past ALL understanding. During the times in my life when I felt like dying would be the best thing, God was always there to lift me out of that muck and mire and cause my soul to be still. I can’t tell you the how or the why, that’s just the way it happened. It’s my prayer that you will let Him do that for you too.
And remember…if you don’t remember another thing I ever said…that you shouldn’t “wait” to pray. There’s no reason to put it off, no time better than now, whenever now happens to be. “Now” is always with you, if you really think about it. “Now” is all you have. Thirty seconds ago is gone and you’ll never get that back, and thirty seconds in the future will always be the future. Oh, it will come, but when it does, it will be your “now”. Again, you can find in the Bible, 2 Corinthians 6:2, that says… (For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, …behold,now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.) I’m sure you’ve always heard it said that there’s no time like the present. Well, really there isn’t, because it’s all we have. And so, live in it, but pray. Trust Him, because He loves you even more than I do…
There are probably a million other things I could add to this, but I suppose I’ll leave off here. Maybe I’ll update this post someday, with extra things that come to mind. But until then, think on these things. They may not be the smartest things that have ever been said but they’re true, and they’ve been tested. If nothing else, learn from someone who has been there and done that.
And never be afraid to be the best YOU that you know how to be. It’s who you are. It’s what you were meant to be. And I love you.